I frickin' knew it!!

I am doing this whole post in red because that's what I'm seeing right now!!  I knew it would happen, it's frickin' inevitable.  The jackass ex made contact tonight.  Not a week in advance; not even twenty-four hours in advance.  Tonight at seven o'clock, he decides it's time.  The kids and I had just returned from trick-or-treating in the neighborhood.  We had a blast. Their buckets were packed full of candy.  Just as we were getting ready to do the traditional dumping of the candy on the floor, I hear the ding of my cell phone, indicating I had a text.  Yup, it was him.  Asking if he could see the kids costumes.  WTF?????  Seriously???  I think I was in a fugue state for about 5 minutes.  I had to gather myself before I returned to the candy dumping. 

Here's the thing, I knew it was coming.  Not because he really wanted to see the kids, but because that is what he is "supposed" to do.  In fact, I bet his mother was the one who really wanted to see the costumes and she nagged him until he finally sent the text.  Another guess, he wants pictures to post to his Facebook page to make it look like he is some kind of father.  Both of them could have called, even earlier in the day, and I may have considered it.  Who am I kidding?  I wouldn't have.  Don't call me around a "holiday" and act like you are a part of your kids lives.  Don't act like after three months, I should do anything for you.  I won't.  I used to put up with this bullshit because I thought it would make the kids suffer if I kept them from their dad.   Now, I'm afraid of the chaos it will create if, or should I say when, he does come around again. 

After I calmed down a bit (yes it took awhile), I had to figure out what to do.  Reply or don't reply?  Or even how to reply???  I admit, there was a big part of me that wanted to unload all of the pent up anger, but to what end??  He would accept no responsibility, be full of excuses, and ultimately blame me for his life being in the shitter.  So I did what I thought best, ignored it.  Shared it with my family(when the kids were not in the room), vented to them, and went back to enjoying the wonderful Halloween we were having. 

The scariest part of this...he'll do the same thing at Thanksgiving and then Christmas.  Gonna be doing a lot of blogging during this holiday season!!!